haveievermentioned:

inquisitorhotpants:

thepeoplesfriend:

punlich:

telegantmess:

blue-author:

You go into your job, you piddle around getting coffee and getting “set up” every morning when you’re on the clock, you spend an hour in the morning and an hour in the afternoon on Facebook, you mess around on the internet in between that, and you have a custodial staff cleaning up after you.

You don’t have to do the cleaning yourself. You don’t have bosses telling you “If you’ve got time to lean, you’ve got time to clean.” You have time to lean. You lean on your desk during the mid-afternoon slump and no one says anything except to remark on how many hours you have to go. You lean on your friend’s cubicle wall while you talk about the big game or your guild raid or who said what about whom on TV last night. Sure, if you do that too often or too obviously, someone will say something, but the mere fact that conversation happens isn’t automatically taken as a red flag that someone is stealing time from The Company.

You might have to kiss up to the boss or a touring client from time to time, but mostly, you don’t have to provide service with a smile or anything like that. You don’t have to smile and speak cheerfully and politely to customers who are making your job difficult by their apathy, entitlement, and disrespect. You can sit there and grimace and sneer and roll your eyes at the computer monitor, muttering under your breath (or speaking out loud to your neighbors) about what a live one you’re dealing with as you type out your considered and professional reply. Whatever your job is, you’re just expected to do it, not do it and perform the emotional labor of a continuous mask of unflappable perkiness.

Your schedule is not a weekly guessing game. It’s not set by someone playing chicken with the part-time/full-time boundary. You aren’t expected to come in before your shift to get everything set up or stay after you’ve clocked out in order to clean everything up for tomorrow. You don’t live in a state of constant tension between the fact that you don’t make enough money even with the hours they deign to give you and the fact that they give you hours designed to ensure you can’t have any life or commitments outside the job.

White collar workers are paid with the expectation that they will have done their jobs within the time that they spend in the office, not that they will have worked a solid 8 or 10 hours the entire time they were on the clock.

Minimum wage workers are treated like if they aren’t performing two or three jobs the entire time they’re on the clocks, they’re stealing their wages.

Source: I have worked white collar office jobs, and listened to my friends who have worked minimum wage service jobs. I could probably still do the former, if I hadn’t transitioned and if transportation weren’t an issue. I know for a fact I could not do the latter.

I have worked both types of jobs and this is very accurate.

even the micromanaged white collar jobs are still less intensely policed than minimum wage jobs.

To every fucking Desk Jockey calling fast food workers “Burger Flippers”

I’ve done both this summer and it was super odd to have my “career path” job being something I could read every single new York Times op-ed over the course of while I had to be on basically constantly for my 9 an hour fake job

When IT works well, you have a lot of time to fuck around. If you’re good at your job, you have a lot of time to fuck around.

I came home from my fast food job FUCKING EXHAUSTED every fucking night. There was no standing around. There was no posting on LJ. I had more free time in the office IN THE MARINES than I did working fast food.

People who call fast food workers “lazy burger flippers” around me get an earful, because that is some bulllllllshit.

I’ve done food and retail, currently working white collar.

Yeah. Food workers are NOT lazy.

owlygem:

Telling a fat person that they are disgusting doesn’t help.

Telling a fat person who has no problem with how they are that they are gross and unacceptable is like air lifting them to a pedestal in the middle of a vast, lonely ocean and leaving them there to sit and think about how “naughty and bad” they’re being.

Telling a fat person who’s already dieting and exercising that they are unhealthy and killing themselves upon judging them without knowing them is like cutting the rope they’re using to climb a mountain that’s already so steep.

Telling a depressed fat person that all their worries and insecurities will melt away when they shed the kilos is like putting foundation over a scar and saying it isn’t there anymore.

Telling a fat person they have no right to love themselves ,whether they plan to lose their weight or not, is telling them they have no right to live a happy life. 

Telling that little girl that she has to lose weight to be like her classmates and be loved as much as them doesn’t make her want to lose her weight, it makes her put on more.

So no, Nicole, Shaming doesn’t help people. It never will.

iluvchrom:

what the fuck at all of these posts i’m seeing on my dash defending outright emotional manipulation and abuse in relationships in general.

if you are at a point in your relationship with someone where:

• they are openly (however passive aggressively) jealous about you spending time with people who aren’t them
• they demand your attention above everyone else’s or above other things you have going on in your life
• they force you to fulfill a quota of communication with them every day like communication with them is something you owe them instead of something that should come naturally for both of you
• you have to walk on eggshells around them to avoid making them angry at you
• they refuse to apologize for treating you badly because “they can’t help it”
• you feel guilty doing things that aren’t talking to them in case it upsets them
• if you are generally interacting with them out of a perceived obligation or fear of upsetting them rather than a genuine desire to speak to them
• A MULTITUDE OF REALLY UNHEALTHY SHIT

that is not healthy. that is not a sign of a healthy relationship. stop defending this shit.