man i wish ‘no’ was a more socially acceptable answer
like ‘wanna come with us’
‘no’
no hard feelings
end of story
instead you either feel guilty for saying no or you have to give a detailed explanation/excuse why you don’t wanna or can’t go somewhere or you end up going anyway
And then you spend hours/days worrying that they’re angry or upset with you or that they think you don’t like them. Uuugh.