Month: April 2016

I have made significant progress in my book (it’s 97k now, one gap filled, the other halfway done, two chapters left for the ending), so Aaron let me play with the ipad last night for 30 minutes. Of course I drew a lioness. 

It’s definitely going to take some getting used to… but it’s not so bad for having collectively one hour of experience drawing ON a screen, right? 😀

( I think I RPed this lioness once, many, many years ago… was her name Cwandoya? I can’t find any meaning behind the name, so I must be spelling it wrong. )

boyonetta:

You’re going to disagree with people your entire life. There isn’t ever going to be a time where you aren’t currently in disagreement with someone somewhere on this planet.

Part of growing up is learning how to deal with disagreement in a healthy way.

A healthy way is not wishing death on them, or encouraging them to commit suicide, or digging up their personal information to frighten or threaten them. That’s not a healthy way to deal with anything.

What you do when you meet someone you disagree with is either:

1) Agree to disagree, and continue interacting amicably based on what you do agree upon

2) Agree to disagree, and attempt to help them see your point of view in a non-violent, non-antagonistic way

3) Agree to disagree, and simply avoid them

You do not threaten them. You do not encourage them to harm themselves. You do not doxx them.

You either deal with it, or move on.

It’s that. fucking. simple.

jumpingjacktrash:

magic-circle:

actualanimevillain:

sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.

Reminder

this is such a good post.

please also remember that even if it’s hard to do this, and even if you fuck up a bunch of times, it’s still worth trying and you will still get there eventually.

Omg good post yes thank you.

leelee203:

teffyjeffy:

servicek9s:

thatincompetentperson:

starspangledscarf:

fooshfoosh:

janedoodles:

gilboron:

Story idea when you try to actually write it:

Story idea when you first rewrite it:

Getting closer to what you saw in your head, eh? Keep at it!

Your story when somebody else sees it:

hhhhhHHHHHHH

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This is a lovely post. It goes to show that when we percieve our own work, most of us have some type of insecurities about our own talents. 

This.

@iamameliagrace