People don’t need to be in constant communication to be very good friends. I have plenty of friends that I only talk to once every few months, but I think of them fondly and we just pick up where we left off when we do come across something that we want to talk to each other about. What would this be called? More of a fluid conversation…?
There’s a handful of people that talk to me exclusively through text and we never stop our conversation. It’s ongoing forever, whether the responses are 30 seconds apart or a week. There’s a mutual understanding that we care about each other and will respond when we can. Chill relationships like that are so important to me.
I guess it’s easier to be in more frequent contact if we’re working on something together. But even that is difficult for me to really quantify. I keep running into problems where a friend will require x amount of contact per day/week/etc, or the friendship is off. Which I just do not understand.
Pro tip: if you give me an ultimatum like that, I will almost always walk away.
The only things that are allowed to demand my time are my husband (who doesn’t, anyway), and work (which does out of necessity, but never asks me to take work home). Everything else is second. So if that bothers you, sorry. I won’t be happy, you won’t be happy. I guess that’s my ultimatum. If you can’t handle the fact that I am already hopelessly devoted to someone already, and that I have lots of friends, then don’t waste your time on me because that is not going to change. Bestestbestbestbest friend slot has already been taken by Aaron. Sorry.
But if you get that I am an adult with a spouse, a full-time job, a million hobbies, and lots of friends that I am close to… then we’ll be just fine and able to have lots of fun together as time and mood permits. 🙂