1. Stop reading comment sections on articles which you know are only going to make you angry and disappointed in humanity.

2. Stop engaging with said commenters if you do go down and read their Hitler-referencing drivel. Arguing with anonymous trolls will not get you anywhere.

3. Tell people all throughout your life how much they mean to you and how much you love them.

4. Dare to kiss someone first when you want to kiss them, instead of waiting agonizingly for them to make the first move.

5. Start making your own granola when you get a little time to keep in a jar or Ziploc bag for your breakfasts/snacks. Homemade granola offers perhaps one of the best effort to long-lasting deliciousness ratio out there.

6. Pick a physical activity which you don’t absolutely hate, so you can do it regularly. (Or at least find a podcast you love which makes jogging bearable.)

7. Delete phone numbers in your contacts list which you know you should no longer be texting while drunk or answering calls from.

8. Donate a little bit of your time to doing something for the good of society — even if it just means picking up a little bit of trash that you see and throwing it in a recycling bin, or starting a compost, or making a lunch for the homeless in your neighborhood once in a while. Focus on making the first step towards being more useful with your time.

9. Forgive someone you’ve been holding a grudge against long after they’ve apologized.

10. Decide what you actually want sexually, and start making an effort to communicate it effectively to your partners, instead of living in disappointment.

11. Stop watching terrible reality shows that you know only make you more of a shallow, simple person.

12. Go to see more movies alone on weekend afternoons, especially ones which make you cry and/or feel way too many #feelings.

13. Forgive yourself for dating people who were wrong for you, even if you knew they were wrong for you from the get-go, even if they ended up breaking your heart.

14. Take a chance on a date you normally wouldn’t accept, just to see where it might go and learn a bit more about what you like and don’t like.

15. Remind yourself often of how young you actually are and how much you have ahead of you.

16. Have crepes with Nutella and bananas and/or strawberries for breakfast once in a while. (If you haven’t done this yet, your entire body hates you and you just don’t know it.)

17. Eat lunch in the park, instead of at your desk or in a crowded restaurant, whenever you get the chance.

18. Learn how to do minor repairs on your clothes, such as replacing buttons or fixing a small tear, and keep a needle and thread with you when traveling or going somewhere important. You never know when you might need it.

19. Dance more by yourself in your room, to whatever absurd music you like to listen to when you’re alone.

20. Sing louder in the shower.

21. Accept that, in many situations, you are going to be the one who ends up loving more, loving longer, and loving more painfully. Know that this doesn’t make you a bad or faulty person.

22. Start being more selective about your online presence, and to whom you give the privilege of learning your stories.

23. Send handwritten cards to thank people for things, instead of just a thank-you email. Taking a moment for a handwritten card truly make all the difference when it comes to saying thanks, and makes people feel like you really appreciated them.

24. Make a concerted effort to remind yourself of the parts of your body you like, and what you can do to treat your body better and make it more energetic.

25. Don’t saddle yourself with unreasonable expectations about what you’re going to be able to accomplish or sustain over the course of one year, but push yourself to make the small, doable steps towards your goals.

26. Don’t judge your success or your failure over the course of the year by your waistline.

27. Be honest with yourself about which friends are not challenging or encouraging you in the right ways, and which friends may even be bringing you down or preventing you from doing the things you want to do.

28. Remind yourself to be proud of your accomplishments, even if you’re not used to congratulating yourself or savoring your accomplishments.

29. Keep the plans you make with your friends, even if it means going out of your way. Understand that a time when most of you are unmarried, independent, child-free, and within drivable distance of one another is something which will not come again in life, and take all the advantage of it you can.

Can We Create Something Beautiful and Destroy It?: I’m going to sever my foot, ok?

Can We Create Something Beautiful and Destroy It?: I’m going to sever my foot, ok?

Fiiiiiiiive golden RIIiiiIIIiiiiings~

Five shiny things I like:

1) MY WEDDING RING <3 It’s white gold with a round diamond solitaire as the center piece, a sapphire marquise on either side, and two smaller round diamonds on either side, making it look a bit like a crystal gem-stone rose. 

2) I have a silver compass that my littler brother got me from Disneyland forever ago that I wear on a silver chain. Socute.

3) Not exactly.. “shiny” but my little TMNT toddler figures are among some of my favoritestst possessions ever. 

4) I was given a silver locket on my 8th birthday from my parents… I have it tucked away in a jewelry box, but I like to take it out once in a while and remember.

5) I have… a collection of tiger eyes. Like, fifty or so, most small, some large. I keep one on my person at all times. They have the most gorgeous inner shine. <3 

Maids-A-Milking!!

Eight things I like about my friends:

1) They know me well enough to know my faults and weaknesses and short comings and fears… but like and RESPECT me anyway.

2) All of them are caring and kind, even if SOME OF THEM come off as assholes sometimes. 

3) They’re talented, every single one of them, though some is less visual than others… and are happy to share these talents and passions with me!

4) We also share other things, like movies or fandoms or games, dreams, etc… and get joy out of experiencing them with each other! Enthusiasm FTW! 

5) They’re always willing to help me, even when I don’t – or won’t – ask for it. ;-; And they don’t drag me through the mud with my needs, either. Very respectful of my pride!

6) They let me help them, too. ;-; <3 

7) Excited to celebrate each other’s successes! 

8) They don’t think of me as “the fat one,” even though I totally am. At least to my face.