{"id":3428,"date":"2014-09-01T20:13:11","date_gmt":"2014-09-01T20:13:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/whiteknighthakuba\/index.php\/2014\/09\/01\/in-our-culture-many-of-us-idealize-love-we-see\/"},"modified":"2014-09-01T20:13:11","modified_gmt":"2014-09-01T20:13:11","slug":"in-our-culture-many-of-us-idealize-love-we-see","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/whiteknighthakuba\/index.php\/2014\/09\/01\/in-our-culture-many-of-us-idealize-love-we-see\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p>In our culture, many of us idealize love. We see it as some lofty cure-all for all of life\u2019s problems. Our movies and our stories and our history all celebrate it as life\u2019s ultimate goal, the final solution for all of our pain and struggle. And because we idealize love, we overestimate it. As a result, our relationships pay a price.<\/p>\n<p>When we believe that \u201call we need is love,\u201d then like Lennon, we\u2019re more likely to ignore fundamental values such as respect, humility and commitment towards the people we care about. After all, if love solves everything, then why bother with all the other stuff \u2014 all of the hard stuff?<\/p>\n<p>But if, like Reznor, we believe that \u201clove is not enough,\u201d then we understand that healthy relationships require more than pure emotion or lofty passions. We understand that there are things more important in our lives and our relationships than simply being in love. And the success of our relationships hinges on these deeper and more important values.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<div class='attribution'><a href=\"http:\/\/markmanson.net\/love\/\">Love is Not Enough &#8211; Mark Manson<\/a> (via <a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/brutereason.tumblr.com\/\">brutereason<\/a>)<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In our culture, many of us idealize love. We see it as some lofty cure-all for all of life\u2019s problems. Our movies and our stories and our history all celebrate it as life\u2019s ultimate goal, the final solution for all of our pain and struggle. And because we idealize love, we overestimate it. As a [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"quote","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[106,646],"class_list":["post-3428","post","type-post","status-publish","format-quote","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-important","tag-love","post_format-post-format-quote"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/whiteknighthakuba\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3428","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/whiteknighthakuba\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/whiteknighthakuba\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/whiteknighthakuba\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/whiteknighthakuba\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3428"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/whiteknighthakuba\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3428\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/whiteknighthakuba\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3428"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/whiteknighthakuba\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3428"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/whiteknighthakuba\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3428"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}