tea asks

black: how much personal space do you like?
chamomile: describe your sleep schedule
dandelion: when you make wishes who are they for?
elderflower: do you get sick often?
fennel: how do you feel right now?
ginger: what animal do you act like?
ginseng: post a photo of somewhere you feel calm
green: list your top 3 motivators
hibiscus: do you like when people try to start a conversation with you?
kava: post your favorite color scheme
lavender: does physical activity help you relax?
lemon: how differently do you behave when you’re by yourself versus when you’re with others?
matcha: do you prefer sunrises or sunsets?
mint: what song gives you energy?
nettle: is there anything you do when you feel guilty?
oolong: where do you see yourself in five years?
peppermint: are you self righteous?
rooibos: if a conversation bothers you, will you speak up about it?
white: do you think family is important?

2 and 6

Doing this in reverse-order so I can stick most of my 2nd answer behind a cut:

6. Is there a character that the rest of your fandom adores that you just don’t like/are indifferent to? Who is the character and why?

For the longest time, it was KID/Kaito. I could write a huge long rant about it, but fortunately, through the grace of good writers, I have come to accept him as a good character with a lot of potential. I still hate most of his fans, though, especially when they put him on a pedestal and completely ignore all of the canonical stuff that makes him so interesting. 

There are a handful of other characters that I’m just “meh” toward, but it’s not a big deal. Having such a large cast (most of which is amazing) really helps to dilute what junk does exist. 🙂

2. Are there any plot tropes you are sick of/refuse to RP? If so, what are they and why?

There are plenty… a lot are irrational biases (being stuck in a video game, zombies, etc– you have to have a rEALLY good idea and plan for those or I will NOT be interested AT ALL), but one that I am especially sensitive to and tired of seeing is the unrealistic accidental pregnancy… and moreso when it ends in miscarriage.

And here I will explain why:

It’s a lot harder to get pregnant than people realize. The typical human female has a window of 1-5 days per month that they are fertile. Most average about 3 days. That’s halfway through the cycle. Yes, people can and do get pregnant their first time having sex, but it’s a lot less common than popular media would have you believe.

It’s one thing if you have a couple who oops and keep forgetting their preferred method of birth control, but have very active sex lives (this is realistic and happens a lot); it’s another thing if two characters get drunk and have sex for the first time ever and it’s amazing (your first time is usually very much not), AND they manage to get pregnant. 

Especially if they are in any way unhealthy. For example, I have PCOS. I will probably never get to have kids, despite wanting and trying for them. 

Which brings me to the miscarriage thing.

Yes, it can and does happen. Usually if it’s going to, though, it’s going to be before a woman even knows that they’re pregnant. Most miscarriages aren’t even noticed. Pregnancy is a precarious thing. And speaking as someone who has had one (early on), it hurt and it was sad, but it didn’t ruin my life; it was just like a particularly heavy cycle that came late. It can be very traumatic later on, but don’t do it if you just want to avoid having to write a child.

Don’t do it without good reason. ESPECIALLY since this is one of those sensitive topics for a lot of people. You NEVER know what your writing partner has gone through or is going through. You never know what’s going to trigger someone. Ask. Be sensitive. Do not assume that it’s just okay to do this kind of thing. Err on the side of caution. This also goes for things like suicide, self-harm, rape, etc. 

Pregnancy scares can be a fun conflict, depending on the type of story that you’re writing. It’s a huge, life and relationship changing event. Pregnancy itself can put characters through a whole different set of challenges for your characters, and that can be great. Miscarriages can and do happen. They can be painful, physically and emotionally. 

For the record, I’ll mention that I have RPed the scenario out before, and it can work. I’ll probably do it again in the future, too. I’m actually planning on a pregnancy arc with one RP partner already, because of the juxtaposition of ‘domestic life vs intense professional life,’ which is the overall plot arc for those characters. Pretty sure that the pregnancy will succeed, though, since the characters are both very proficient, responsible people.  

But all of this need to be handled with respect, they need to be realistic, and please, for the love of all that’s holy, don’t use it as trick for cheap drama and lazy writing. It’s insensitive, annoying, and I will be instantly turned off from it.

And, on that note, a brief mention of mpreg: I’m not really a fan of it, but I’ve done one or two scenarios where it worked for me in the past. Both were carefully plotted, involved a lot of pseudo-science/magic, and it was more about a reproductive organ change than anything. There were still a lot of complications, it had a high magic cost, lots of consequences, and was a fairly intensive as far as pre-planning and maintenance and so on. They were emotionally exhaustive plots, and while I think it turned out well and satisfying, it’s not something that I am exactly eager to repeat for the reasons mentioned above. Basically, if I were to run a plot involving that again, it certainly would not be on tumblr.

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Questions Often Left Unanswered: Mun Edition

  1. Are there any characters in your fandom or faceclaims you refuse to RP with? Who and why?
  2. Are there any plot tropes you are sick of/refuse to RP? If so, what are they and why?
  3. As a mun, what are three of your biggest flaws when it comes to being someone’s RP partner?
  4. Have you ever dropped a thread because someone refused to ship their character with yours? If no, have you ever dropped a thread for another “unpopular” reason and if so, what was your reasoning?
  5. Have you ever RP’d with someone simply because of their character’s faceclaim, even if you did not like their character’s personality?
  6. Is there a character that the rest of your fandom adores that you just don’t like/are indifferent to? Who is the character and why?
  7. List three honest flaws your favorite character has and talk about how those flaws make them problematic.
  8. Out of the really popular pairings in your fandom, what’s your nOTP?
  9. What has been the biggest mistake you’ve made since you started RPing?
  10. What’s something you really hate seeing on your dash that seems to be popular with almost everyone else?
  11. What’s your biggest pet peeve when it comes to RPing?
  12. What’s your biggest pet peeve when it comes to the fandom you RP in?
  13. Who is your least favorite character in the fandom you RP in? List three admirable traits about them.
  14. Without naming anyone specific, have you ever avoided someone simply because they RP with one of your RP partners? If so, why?
  15. Without naming anyone, have you ever refused/simply avoided another RPer in the fandom because of things you’ve heard others say about them, or because of their popularity? If so, why did you feel the need to?

Put “whisper” in my ask box and my muse will whisper one of these in your muse’s ear:

rpstartersanskboxfillers:

1. “I love you.”
2. “I hate you.”
3. “I know you love me.”
4. “Don’t act like you love me when it’s so clear that you don’t.”
5. “Don’t make me threaten you.”
6. “Marry me.”
7. “You smell lovely.”
8. “I can be cruel if I have to.”
9. “I can’t wait to watch you burn.”
10. “You’re perfect.”
11. “You were a mistake.”
12. “I never loved you.”
13. “I loved you too much.”
14. “Look a parrot.”
15. “Kiss me.”
16. “Let’s get out of here.”
17. “It’s over.”
18. “Oh, its just beginning.”
19. “You can’t get rid of me that easily.”
20. “It’s now or never.”

Headcanon Notes

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  1. Name of your muse.
    Saguru J. Hakuba
  2. One picture you like best of your muse’s fc. 

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  3. Two headcanons you have for your muse that you never told anyone.  
    1) He hopes to get a pilot’s license some day.
    2) He idolizes Captain America even though he has a strong distaste for the States.
  4. Three things that your muse loves doing in their free time. 
    Read, write, and cook.
  5. Four people that your muse loves.
    His mother, Baaya, Kuroba Kaito, and… yeah, his father, too. 
  6. Three fond childhood memories.  
    1) Going to the theater with his mother for ballets, concerts, stage productions, etc.
    2) Chasing after Sherlock (the dog) in the woods while pretending to be on the case.
    3) Learning how to sew buttons back on (thanks Baaya).
  7. Two things your muse regrets.  
    1) Letting Hattori get him riled up during the Koushien.
    2) Not going to get help with the whole White Chapel mess so much earlier.
  8. One thing they’d go through heaven or hell to save/change.
    Kuroba Kaito. (Or koizumiakako if we’re talking literally.)
  9. Tag ten people to do the same thing. 

haruspoops, smokebombsandmirrors, kuroba-k, osakandetectivehattori, askkudoushinichi, daughterofthesleuth, haunted-haibara, japansfamousdetective, patientxpetals, and blackorgkaito

Send a symbol for a headcanon about my muse.

spiritflux:

◎: What is your muse’s most prized mundane
possession? Why do they value it so much?

★: What is your muse’s idea of perfect happiness?
: Your muse is doing some intense spring cleaning. What is easy for them to throw out, and what is difficult for them to part with?
♠: What’s the worst thing your muse has done to someone they loved?
: In what situation would your muse feel most out of their comfort zone?
♣: What’s your muse’s biggest cause of stress or anxiety?
✚: What is the most frightening potential handicap or disfigurement your muse can conceive? What makes it so frightening?
✔: What did your muse want to be when they were a child? Did they go on to do this and if so, was it everything that they hoped it would be? Or has this desire changed since, and why?
❖: What is the attitude and appearance that your muse presents in public? How does this differ from the attitude they have in private, when they are alone?
✿: Which one act in your muse’s past are they most ashamed of? Which one act in their past are they most proud of?
➜: What sort of things does your muse keep in their pockets on any given day?
■: If one of your muse’s friends was asked to describe them in a handful of words for a profile on a dating site, what would they say?
: Who or what, if anything, would your muse die for or otherwise go to extremes for?
▼: What would you find in your muse’s refrigerator right now?
♛: If your muse had to die, how would they like to go? And if they could come back as a person or animal, what would it be?
❸: Name three things your muse considers themselves to be very good at, and three things they consider themselves to be very bad at.
❦: If your muse was having a nightmare, what would be the worst one that they could suffer?
♫: What is one thing that your muse thinks they are talented at, but actually aren’t?
♞: Who was your muse’s idol when they were growing up? Who did they first fantasize about being like?
✱: What is your favourite ‘happily ever after’ for your muse? And what’s your most unconventional ‘ever after’ headcanon for them (happily or otherwise)?
✦: What is your muse’s fondest childhood memory?
: What would be the perfect gift for your muse?
❤: What is your muse’s perfect romantic date?
: When and where was your muse happiest?
: If events in your muse’s life had gone very differently to how they did, what would they have done with their life? What sort of occupation might they have chosen for themselves and would they, in your opinion, be happier than they are now?
☢: If your muse knew that they were going to die in 24 hours, name three things they would do in the time they had left.
☠: What is the one thing for which your muse would most like to be remembered after their death?
✎: Growing up, did your muse have a teacher or mentor figure? What was their relationship like?
✄: How does your muse perceive themselves, both internally and externally? How does this differ from how other people may see them?
: Was your muse popular as a child? Did they have many friends, and are they still in touch/still aware of what they are doing with their lives now?
: What is your muse particularly unskilled at?
☯: Who, if anyone, does your muse consider to be their best friend?