{"id":9407,"date":"2016-02-09T06:46:04","date_gmt":"2016-02-09T06:46:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2016\/02\/09\/1863-project-advicefromsurvivors-being\/"},"modified":"2016-02-09T06:46:04","modified_gmt":"2016-02-09T06:46:04","slug":"1863-project-advicefromsurvivors-being","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2016\/02\/09\/1863-project-advicefromsurvivors-being\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/1863-project.tumblr.com\/post\/138975392671\">1863-project<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/advicefromsurvivors.tumblr.com\/post\/138906074674\">advicefromsurvivors<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>Being abused can seriously affect your ability to distinguish between \u201cnot obviously pleased\u201d and \u201cobviously displeased\u201d because abusers go from Neutral to Hostile for absolutely no discernible reason, and eventually you start worrying that <b>everyone<\/b> is going to be like that and you start feeling this urge to make absolutely sure that the people you actually care about <b>aren\u2019t<\/b> mad or upset, because to you, \u201cthere\u2019s no evidence that they\u2019re <b>not<\/b> angry\u201d is the same as \u201cthere\u2019s evidence that they <b>are<\/b> angry\u201d<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>I was in an emotionally abusive friendship when I was in college, and I realized about a year ago that I was afraid to upset or even disagree with my friends (who I\u2019ve known since high school and who I love and trust like they\u2019re my siblings). It hit me that it was because of that friendship. I was so afraid that I was going to lose my friends or make them angry at me that I was afraid to even have a different opinion.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s amazing how engrained abuse can become in your brain.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>1863-project: advicefromsurvivors: Being abused can seriously affect your ability to distinguish between \u201cnot obviously pleased\u201d and \u201cobviously displeased\u201d because abusers go from Neutral to Hostile for absolutely no discernible reason, and eventually you start worrying that everyone is going to be like that and you start feeling this urge to make absolutely sure that the &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2016\/02\/09\/1863-project-advicefromsurvivors-being\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\"><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9407","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","without-featured-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9407","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9407"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9407\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9407"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9407"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9407"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}