{"id":9309,"date":"2016-02-29T03:28:15","date_gmt":"2016-02-29T03:28:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2016\/02\/29\/you-have-to-accept-that-some-people-are-not-made\/"},"modified":"2016-02-29T03:28:15","modified_gmt":"2016-02-29T03:28:15","slug":"you-have-to-accept-that-some-people-are-not-made","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2016\/02\/29\/you-have-to-accept-that-some-people-are-not-made\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p>You have to accept that some people are not made for deep conversations, or for holding you together when you\u2019re about to fall apart, or for keeping you from unzipping your skin, or for talking you out of suicide, or to love you through the worst moments of your life. Some people are made for shallow exchanges, and ridiculous banter, and nothing more. And that\u2019s okay. That doesn\u2019t make them horrible people because they simply aren\u2019t able to handle a storm like you. It doesn\u2019t make you a bad person because you won\u2019t divulge all the gritty details of your horror show. It makes you smart. You have to accept that there will be people that cannot give you what you need. It doesn\u2019t mean they are not worth keeping in your life. You just have to figure out who these ones are before you\u2019re disappointed. And you have to keep them at arm\u2019s length. You cannot expect everyone in your life to understand, to be nonjudgmental, to get it. But that\u2019s okay, because not everyone was made to impart wisdom, or wax-poetic, or speak on politics and the depravity of society, or discuss how crucial it is that the stigma of mental illness be abolished. There are times when you have to get away from all that heaviness. You have to. And you will need superficial conversation about Kim Kardashian\u2019s arse, or a debate on the colour of The Dress. You will need those ones. So don\u2019t go round cutting people off and dropping your friends. You need people for all your seasons. You need people or you won\u2019t survive this.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<div class='attribution'>What my therapist told me this morning\u00a0 (via <a href=\"http:\/\/dressrossa.tumblr.com\/\" class=\"tumblr_blog\">dressrossa<\/a>)<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You have to accept that some people are not made for deep conversations, or for holding you together when you\u2019re about to fall apart, or for keeping you from unzipping your skin, or for talking you out of suicide, or to love you through the worst moments of your life. Some people are made for &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2016\/02\/29\/you-have-to-accept-that-some-people-are-not-made\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\"><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"quote","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9309","post","type-post","status-publish","format-quote","hentry","category-uncategorized","post_format-post-format-quote","without-featured-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9309","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9309"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9309\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9309"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9309"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9309"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}