{"id":7897,"date":"2017-01-03T02:50:11","date_gmt":"2017-01-03T02:50:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2017\/01\/03\/quillyfied-some-things-i-a-twenty-something\/"},"modified":"2017-01-03T02:50:11","modified_gmt":"2017-01-03T02:50:11","slug":"quillyfied-some-things-i-a-twenty-something","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2017\/01\/03\/quillyfied-some-things-i-a-twenty-something\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/quillyfied.tumblr.com\/post\/155312480261\/some-things-i-a-twenty-something-am-still\" class=\"tumblr_blog\">quillyfied<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>some things i, a twenty-something, am still learning and hope y\u2019all teenagers can learn way faster than me:<\/p>\n<p>nobody gets to dictate to you what you like and why<\/p>\n<p>other people\u2019s opinions are theirs, not gospel that you should accept no matter how loud they are<\/p>\n<p>being critical of something doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t love it, and loving something doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t criticize it<\/p>\n<p>make your own judgement calls and decisions, based on your own set of criteria. be courteous and respectful, but not a doormat, not a wibbly wimp whose decisions and interests change with whatever everyone else says<\/p>\n<p>two people can disagree and still have the highest respect for each other<\/p>\n<p>you are allowed to cut people out of your life if their opinions and beliefs are harmful to you<\/p>\n<p>you are allowed to be angry and sad and feel negative emotions. you\u2019re allowed. they\u2019re normal and you aren\u2019t broken or rebellious or ungrateful for feeling those things<\/p>\n<p>you can\u2019t control your emotions, but you CAN control your behavior, and how you behave informs people around you how to treat you<\/p>\n<p>no person, no movie, no tv show, no book, no ANYTHING is perfect. don\u2019t let the imperfections spoil the experience for you if you enjoy the thing. be mindful, be critical, walk away if you have to, but expecting perfection and getting violently upset when it lets you down is unhealthy and you\u2019ll spend your entire life miserable<\/p>\n<p>self-care and recovery go hand in hand. recovery isn\u2019t easy. recovery isn\u2019t pretty. recovery is necessary and tiring and so, so worth it<\/p>\n<p>you set your own pace. compare yourself only with your former self, not with anyone else, because you don\u2019t know other people\u2019s limitations and privileges as well as you know your own and comparison is worthless<\/p>\n<p>loving yourself is an everyday journey, not a destination<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>quillyfied: some things i, a twenty-something, am still learning and hope y\u2019all teenagers can learn way faster than me: nobody gets to dictate to you what you like and why other people\u2019s opinions are theirs, not gospel that you should accept no matter how loud they are being critical of something doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2017\/01\/03\/quillyfied-some-things-i-a-twenty-something\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\"><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[618],"class_list":["post-7897","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-important","without-featured-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7897","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7897"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7897\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7897"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7897"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7897"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}