{"id":7224,"date":"2018-11-18T06:26:59","date_gmt":"2018-11-18T06:26:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2018\/11\/18\/finnglas-dangerwaffle\/"},"modified":"2018-12-04T08:51:58","modified_gmt":"2018-12-04T08:51:58","slug":"finnglas-dangerwaffle","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2018\/11\/18\/finnglas-dangerwaffle\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-7224 gallery-columns-3 gallery-size-thumbnail'><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2018\/11\/18\/finnglas-dangerwaffle\/attachment\/7225\/#main'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/tumblr_mf5rssrqsy1qae7gdo1_540-150x150.png\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/tumblr_mf5rssrqsy1qae7gdo1_540-150x150.png 150w, http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/tumblr_mf5rssrqsy1qae7gdo1_540-100x100.png 100w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt><\/dl>\n\t\t\t<br style='clear: both' \/>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/finnglas.tumblr.com\/post\/134806336425\" class=\"tumblr_blog\">finnglas<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/dangerwaffle.tumblr.com\/post\/104654978056\">dangerwaffle<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/castiel-knight-of-hell.tumblr.com\/post\/103559860789\">castiel-knight-of-hell<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/masquerading-as-a-genius.tumblr.com\/post\/103509348957\">masquerading-as-a-genius<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/sage-of-rocknroll-oromis.tumblr.com\/post\/102094987462\">sage-of-rocknroll-oromis<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/the-deaf-mermaid.tumblr.com\/post\/101879943856\">the-deaf-mermaid<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/giants0rbiting.tumblr.com\/post\/38347678530\">giants0rbiting<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>I LITERALLY THINK THIS EVERY TIME THE SONG COMES ON<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>What song is this talking about?<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>\u2018Baby It\u2019s Cold Outside\u2019<\/p>\n<p>Otherwise known as the original \u2018Blurred Lines\u2019<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>HEY FRIENDS HISTORICAL REMINDER: \u2018WHAT\u2019S IN THIS DRINK\u2019 ISN\u2019T TALKING ABOUT DRUGS,\u00a0HE IS NOT TRYING TO ROOFIE HER<\/p>\n<p>THE SONG IS TALKING ABOUT ALCOHOL<\/p>\n<p>but still a pushy song<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>historical reminder that the reason pina coladas and pink squirrels are known as \u201cgirly drinks\u201d is because they mask the taste of alcohol and men were know to give women these drinks without informing them that they were alcoholic. It takes a couple of drinks to realize you\u2019ve been consuming alcohol and by then you\u2019re more susceptible to suggestion, making it easier for him to convince you to stick around and have a third drink. When this song was written in 1944 most women didn\u2019t drink regularly, meaning they had a low tolerance and it would only take 2-3 drinks to get her drunk enough that she wouldn\u2019t be able to put up much of a fight. This was the 1940s version of being roofied<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>No no no it was not.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHey what\u2019s in this drink\u201d was a stock joke at the time, and the punchline was invariably that there\u2019s actually pretty much nothing in the drink, <em>not even a significant amount of alcohol<\/em>.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>See, this woman is staying late, unchaperoned, at a dude\u2019s house. In the 1940\u2019s, that\u2019s the kind of thing Good Girls aren\u2019t supposed to do \u2013 and she wants people to think she\u2019s a good girl. The woman in the song says outright, multiple times, that <em>what other people will think of her staying\u00a0<\/em>is\u00a0what she\u2019s really concerned about: \u201cthe neighbors might think,\u201d \u201cmy maiden aunt\u2019s mind is vicious,\u201d \u201cthere\u2019s bound to be talk tomorrow.\u201c\u00a0But she\u2019s having a really good time, and she\u00a0<em>wants<\/em> to stay, and so she is excusing her uncharacteristically bold behavior (either to the guy or to herself) by blaming it on the drink \u2013 unaware that the drink is actually really weak, maybe not even alcoholic at all. That\u2019s the joke. That is the standard joke that\u2019s going on when a woman in media from the early-to-mid 20th century says \u201chey, what\u2019s in this drink?\u201c\u00a0It is not a joke about how she\u2019s drunk and about to be raped. It\u2019s a joke about how she\u2019s perfectly sober and about to have awesome consensual sex and use the drink for plausible deniability because she\u2019s living in a society where women aren&#8217;t\u00a0<em>supposed\u00a0<\/em>to have sexual agency.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, the song only makes sense in the context of a society in which women are expected to reject men\u2019s advances whether they actually want to or not, and therefore it\u2019s normal and expected for a lady\u2019s gentleman companion to pressure her despite her protests, because he knows she would have to say that whether or not she meant it, and if she really wants to stay she won\u2019t be able to justify doing so unless he offers her an excuse other than &ldquo;I\u2019m staying because I want to.\u201d (That\u2019s the main theme of the man\u2019s lines in the song, suggesting excuses she can use when people ask later why she spent the night at his house: it was so cold out, there were no cabs available, he simply insisted because he was concerned about my safety in such awful weather, it was perfectly innocent and definitely not about sex at all!) In this particular case, he\u2019s pretty clearly right, because <em>unlike in Blurred Lines, the woman actually has a voice<\/em>, and she\u2019s using it to give all the culturally-understood signals that she actually does want to stay but can\u2019t say so. She states explicitly that she\u2019s resisting because she\u2019s supposedto, not because she wants to: \u201cI\u00a0<em>ought\u00a0<\/em>to say no no no\u2026&quot;\u00a0She states explicitly that she\u2019s just putting up a token resistance so she\u2019ll be able to claim later that she did what\u2019s expected of a decent woman in this situation: &quot;at least I\u2019m gonna say that I tried.\u201d And at the end of the song they\u2019re singing together, in harmony, because they\u2019re both on the same page and they have been all along.<\/p>\n<p>So it\u2019s not actually a song about rape &#8211; in fact it\u2019s a song about a woman finding a way to exercise sexual agency in a patriarchal society designed to stop her from doing so. But it\u2019s also, at the same time, one of the best illustrations of <em>rape culture<\/em>\u00a0that pop culture has ever produced. It\u2019s a song about a society where women aren\u2019t allowed to say yes\u2026which happens to mean it\u2019s also a society where women don\u2019t have a clear and unambiguous way to say no.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Reblogging for that last bit because this is what I rant about to Kellie every time this discourse happens on my blog but I\u2019m too lazy to type it out. SO thank you to @dangerwaffle for not being as lazy as me. This song has a cultural context, and a historical context, and it\u2019s worth talking about how fucked up that context is, but you have to get WHICH context it is right first.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>finnglas: dangerwaffle: castiel-knight-of-hell: masquerading-as-a-genius: sage-of-rocknroll-oromis: the-deaf-mermaid: giants0rbiting: I LITERALLY THINK THIS EVERY TIME THE SONG COMES ON What song is this talking about? \u2018Baby It\u2019s Cold Outside\u2019 Otherwise known as the original \u2018Blurred Lines\u2019 HEY FRIENDS HISTORICAL REMINDER: \u2018WHAT\u2019S IN THIS DRINK\u2019 ISN\u2019T TALKING ABOUT DRUGS,\u00a0HE IS NOT TRYING TO ROOFIE HER THE SONG IS &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2018\/11\/18\/finnglas-dangerwaffle\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\"><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"gallery","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[3002],"class_list":["post-7224","post","type-post","status-publish","format-gallery","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-i-will-never-get-over-how-much-the-song-changes-with-the-context","post_format-post-format-gallery","without-featured-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7224","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7224"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7224\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7226,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7224\/revisions\/7226"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7224"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7224"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7224"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}