{"id":14058,"date":"2013-03-31T02:46:28","date_gmt":"2013-03-31T02:46:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2013\/03\/31\/dont-talk-to-yourself-in-such-a-way-that-if-you\/"},"modified":"2013-03-31T02:46:28","modified_gmt":"2013-03-31T02:46:28","slug":"dont-talk-to-yourself-in-such-a-way-that-if-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2013\/03\/31\/dont-talk-to-yourself-in-such-a-way-that-if-you\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote>\n<p>Don\u2019t talk to yourself in such a way that if you did so to a friend, it would end your friendship.<\/p>\n<p>If you had a friend dealing with the same things, you wouldn\u2019t berate that person, say, \u2018You\u2019re not working hard enough,\u2019 \u2018You suck,\u2019 or \u2018You\u2019re not as good as [whomever].\u2019 You\u2019d offer your friend encouragement, you\u2019d try to point out all the things your friend did right, and how much progress your friend had made.<\/p>\n<p>You should do no less for yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Be very careful how you talk to yourself. Because *you are listening.*<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<div class='attribution'><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/PatCadigan?ref=ts&amp;fref=ts\">Pat Cadigan<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Pat_Cadigan\">author<\/a> (via <a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/ellenkushner.tumblr.com\/\">ellenkushner<\/a>)<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Don\u2019t talk to yourself in such a way that if you did so to a friend, it would end your friendship. If you had a friend dealing with the same things, you wouldn\u2019t berate that person, say, \u2018You\u2019re not working hard enough,\u2019 \u2018You suck,\u2019 or \u2018You\u2019re not as good as [whomever].\u2019 You\u2019d offer your friend &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2013\/03\/31\/dont-talk-to-yourself-in-such-a-way-that-if-you\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\"><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"quote","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14058","post","type-post","status-publish","format-quote","hentry","category-uncategorized","post_format-post-format-quote","without-featured-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14058","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14058"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14058\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14058"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14058"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14058"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}