{"id":13863,"date":"2013-04-18T06:43:37","date_gmt":"2013-04-18T06:43:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2013\/04\/18\/btw-3\/"},"modified":"2013-04-18T06:43:37","modified_gmt":"2013-04-18T06:43:37","slug":"btw-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2013\/04\/18\/btw-3\/","title":{"rendered":"btw"},"content":{"rendered":"

iamtheniiiiight<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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enfpconfessions<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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gabappledc<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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In case you didn\u2019t know, I\u2019m an ENFP. This means that I spend a great deal of \u00a0time worrying about if I\u2019m good enough or doing a good job or worth anyone\u2019s time and being too scared to talk to people for fear of bothering them especially with something as selfish as asking if they think I\u2019m okay.<\/p>\n

\u2026which is a problem because we are so outwardly focused that we really can\u2019t tell if we\u2019re okay.<\/p>\n

:I<\/p>\n

someone hug me plz<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Time for hugz.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

i like to think of it as having this blind spot that our confidence leaks out of without someone to give us feedback and let us know we\u2019re on target. \u00a0unfortunately, it\u2019s no one\u2019s job to do that. \u00a0<\/p>\n

definitely no one\u2019s job in my lab\/work.\u00a0<\/p>\n

definitely no friend\u2019s job in terms of just doing okay as a human being\/romantic partner.<\/p>\n

and i have a lot of very very supportive friends. \u00a0it doesn\u2019t matter how many or how often I see them. \u00a0It\u2019s still a problem as soon as the feedback disappears. \u00a0No one to blame for that. \u00a0Definitely not them. \u00a0We ENFPs just have to surround ourselves with other kinds of tangible proof of our progress\/well-being and think things through when we\u2019re not all together sure how to feel. \u00a0<\/p>\n

remember though, it\u2019s always worth it for us to fill in that gap without needing constant reassurance, to find the resources that give us lasting trust in ourselves. \u00a0there are some personality types that are capable of excelling in nearly any field they care about. \u00a0we\u2019re one of them. \u00a0we\u2019re dynamic and full of possibilities. \u00a0those same natural tendencies are the ones that put paranoia and worry into us. \u00a0if we take the paranoia out of the equation, we make room to move forward.<\/p>\n

and always remember, we constantly underestimate our self-worth. \u00a0we just do. \u00a0we measure ourselves against the infinite worlds of possibilities we build in our heads so when we don\u2019t meet the great potential of those things or even if we do but we aren\u2019t recognized for it, we feel dejected. \u00a0we\u2019re worth so much more than we think. \u00a0to all you ENFPs out there, find the proof of the love and assurance you need and don\u2019t let go. \u00a0hold onto the real stuff. \u00a0the stuff that makes you cry from joy that you\u2019re doing okay. \u00a0because more than you think\u2026 you are. \u00a0you already are. \u00a0<\/p>\n

and for all things good and holy in this world, surround yourself with people you can actually trust. \u00a0anything less while you\u2019re building that confidence will tear you apart. \u00a0you\u2019re an ENFP. \u00a0you\u2019re probably naturally good at gauging human motivations. \u00a0you\u2019ll know when you\u2019ve found the right people.<\/p>\n

i know i have.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Yes, perfect. Thank you. <3 <3 <3\u00a0<\/p>\n

That confidence leak is so true. I, too, have lots of really amazing supportive friends… but the moment I’m alone… the good feelings just start to disappear.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Thanks for the great tips and advice! I will do my best to follow. \ud83d\ude42\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

iamtheniiiiight: enfpconfessions: gabappledc: In case you didn\u2019t know, I\u2019m an ENFP. This means that I spend a great deal of \u00a0time worrying about if I\u2019m good enough or doing a good job or worth anyone\u2019s time and being too scared to talk to people for fear of bothering them especially with something as selfish as … Continue reading btw<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[2209],"class_list":["post-13863","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-enfp","without-featured-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13863","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13863"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13863\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13863"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13863"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13863"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}