{"id":11071,"date":"2015-07-28T01:44:12","date_gmt":"2015-07-28T01:44:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2015\/07\/28\/psa-parents-please-do-not-emotionally-manipulate\/"},"modified":"2015-07-28T01:44:12","modified_gmt":"2015-07-28T01:44:12","slug":"psa-parents-please-do-not-emotionally-manipulate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2015\/07\/28\/psa-parents-please-do-not-emotionally-manipulate\/","title":{"rendered":"PSA: Parents. Please do not emotionally manipulate your children."},"content":{"rendered":"

taylor-dibbles-and-mipsy<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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twisted-pine<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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They will grow up completely untrusting with a general sense of sadness and guilt.<\/p>\n

Manipulation includes:<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u201cI just wish [something passive aggressive involving your child]\u201d<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u201cYou do whatever you want to do.\u201d and then getting mad when they make the\u00a0\u201cwrong\u201d choice<\/p>\n

– Not believing them when they tell you something someone did or said to them, including their friends, your friends, family members, or even you<\/p>\n

– Doing something shitty and then pretending you didn\u2019t in hopes they\u2019ll forget?<\/p>\n

– Getting upset when they open up to you. About anything. Even if it\u2019s something angering or disappointing. Don\u2019t show them it\u2019s dangerous or counterproductive to talk to you.<\/p>\n

– Making them feel bad for the friends\/significant others they choose, career path (or lack thereof), school choice (or lack thereof), gender\/sexuality (or lack thereof) literally anything that either they didn\u2019t choose or that they would be miserable without<\/p>\n

– Do NOT EVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES pressure them to talk to you about personal things.<\/p>\n

– Kids do not owe their parents anything. They did not choose to be born. You chose to get pregnant\/chose to carry to term\/chose to raise a baby (even if you didn\u2019t choose all of these things, you at least chose one) under the assumption that you would love this child no matter what.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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taylor-dibbles-and-mipsy: twisted-pine: They will grow up completely untrusting with a general sense of sadness and guilt. Manipulation includes: –\u00a0\u201cI just wish [something passive aggressive involving your child]\u201d –\u00a0\u201cYou do whatever you want to do.\u201d and then getting mad when they make the\u00a0\u201cwrong\u201d choice – Not believing them when they tell you something someone did or … Continue reading PSA: Parents. Please do not emotionally manipulate your children.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11071","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","without-featured-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11071","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11071"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11071\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11071"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11071"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11071"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}