{"id":10157,"date":"2015-12-28T14:22:35","date_gmt":"2015-12-28T14:22:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2015\/12\/28\/onlyblackgirl-browngirlblues-brooke-being\/"},"modified":"2015-12-28T14:22:35","modified_gmt":"2015-12-28T14:22:35","slug":"onlyblackgirl-browngirlblues-brooke-being","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2015\/12\/28\/onlyblackgirl-browngirlblues-brooke-being\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"

onlyblackgirl<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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browngirlblues<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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brooke-being<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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jewishsugar<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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castiel-knight-of-hell<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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randomstabbing<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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isohels<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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Do you know what I hate?? <\/p>\n

When I was growing up any time my brother upset\/hurt\/was rude to or downright nasty to me I was told \u201che\u2019s just doing it to get a rise out of you\u201d \u201che\u2019s just doing it to annoy you\u201d <\/p>\n

Like??? I know?? I know he\u2019s being mean to upset me. I know he\u2019s saying horrible stuff to annoy me. And guess what?? I\u2019m annoyed!!!! <\/p>\n

I was literally told not to be upset, because his intentions were to upset me????<\/p>\n

How is that not upsetting? Especially to a young girl??<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

THE GASLIGHTING STARTS EARLY.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Too many parents teach their daughters to shut up about mistreatment rather than teach their sons to not mistreat people. The response I got all the time was\u00a0\u201cIf you ignore it he\u2019ll get bored and stop.\u201d No, he\u2019ll move on to someone who gives him the reaction he wants. He\u2019s being taught that it\u2019s not his job to behave appropriately, it\u2019s the woman\u2019s job to react appropriately (i.e. ignore him) and if she doesn\u2019t he\u2019s free and clear to keep mistreating her.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Oh my god yes<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

My mother still does this. My brother says stupid racist\/sexist\/homophobic things and I (rightfully) call him out on it, only for my mom to defend him by saying \u201che\u2019s only doing it to get a rise out of you.\u201d Like okay, but isn\u2019t it still shitty for him to say things just to upset me?<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I also got that my brothers terrorized me to make me tougher, which is also bullshit.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Y’all do this now. A lot. \u201cIgnore them they\u2019re just trolling\u201d like everyday people tell women to shut up and ignore mistreatment because \u201cthey just wanna get a rise out of you\u201d. And a rise they will get along with some hands.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

onlyblackgirl: browngirlblues: brooke-being: jewishsugar: castiel-knight-of-hell: randomstabbing: isohels: Do you know what I hate?? When I was growing up any time my brother upset\/hurt\/was rude to or downright nasty to me I was told \u201che\u2019s just doing it to get a rise out of you\u201d \u201che\u2019s just doing it to annoy you\u201d Like??? I know?? I … Continue reading <\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[3066],"class_list":["post-10157","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-this","without-featured-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10157","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10157"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10157\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10157"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10157"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10157"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}