{"id":10150,"date":"2016-01-01T08:18:37","date_gmt":"2016-01-01T08:18:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2016\/01\/01\/the-classiest-url-theabusediary\/"},"modified":"2018-12-04T14:53:57","modified_gmt":"2018-12-04T14:53:57","slug":"the-classiest-url-theabusediary","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2016\/01\/01\/the-classiest-url-theabusediary\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-10150 gallery-columns-3 gallery-size-thumbnail'><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2016\/01\/01\/the-classiest-url-theabusediary\/attachment\/10151\/#main'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/tumblr_ncwh99dfft1qaqxcko1_640-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/tumblr_ncwh99dfft1qaqxcko1_640-150x150.jpg 150w, http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/tumblr_ncwh99dfft1qaqxcko1_640-100x100.jpg 100w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt><\/dl>\n\t\t\t<br style='clear: both' \/>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/the-classiest-url.tumblr.com\/post\/134172907974\">the-classiest-url<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/theabusediary.tumblr.com\/post\/134171572892\">theabusediary<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/its-a-bi-guy.tumblr.com\/post\/133626141932\">its-a-bi-guy<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/naamahdarling.tumblr.com\/post\/132580411766\">naamahdarling<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/validcriticism.tumblr.com\/post\/132434416365\">validcriticism<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/homojabi.tumblr.com\/post\/132258804967\">homojabi<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><a class=\"tumblr_blog\" href=\"http:\/\/blankslate.tumblr.com\/post\/99105983777\">blankslate<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p>posting this everywhere bc it feels important<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>[a lot of survivors have to fight to NOT have empathy for their abusers bc we have been manipulated into having tht emptahy in order for the abuse to continue, therefore being outraged and angry and lacking empathy for abusers is a radical and healing act for many of us]<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>This is so important I\u2019m so sick of being told I have to be the better person. I am the better person by default,   I demand the right to be and behave like I\u2019m in pain.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><b>\u201cI am the better person by default,\u201c<br \/>\n<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Yes. \u00a0This.<\/p>\n<p>If someone abuses and brutalizes you, that\u2019s, uhh, not even remotely the same as being angry with them and wishing they would fall off a cliff.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>So fucking true in my own personal experience.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>This is so important.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>For everyone who tells me I should have a relationship with those people in my life because\u00a0\u201ceveryone deserves a second chance\u201d lol<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>the-classiest-url: theabusediary: its-a-bi-guy: naamahdarling: validcriticism: homojabi: blankslate: posting this everywhere bc it feels important [a lot of survivors have to fight to NOT have empathy for their abusers bc we have been manipulated into having tht emptahy in order for the abuse to continue, therefore being outraged and angry and lacking empathy for abusers is &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/2016\/01\/01\/the-classiest-url-theabusediary\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\"><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"gallery","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[3216],"class_list":["post-10150","post","type-post","status-publish","format-gallery","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-abuse","post_format-post-format-gallery","without-featured-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10150","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10150"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10150\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10152,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10150\/revisions\/10152"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10150"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10150"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/archive.gabapple.com\/tumblr\/gabapple\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10150"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}